Some girls dream of The Wedding from a very young age - they have invitations picked out, linens ready to monogram, and a theme in mind, complete with dresses for the bridesmaids that match the cummerbunds and hankies the best man and ushers will wear.
That was NOT Bridget.
I didn’t even know it was ‘cummerbund’ until about a month ago; before that I thought it was ‘cumberbund’. (Oh dear.) I had no concept of myself as a Bride, and I certainly didn’t want to subscribe to the wedding industry’s idea (at $8 billion annually) of what a wedding should look like.
A friend who was married a few months before our engagement described herself as “the Anti-Bride”. I loved the tongue-in-cheek sound of that – I didn’t want to be the Princess Bride or Bridezilla or any bridal variation in between.
Turns out there is a book called Anti-Bride Guide, and Rae gave me her copy, inscribed with this note:
There is absolutely a place for tradition, ceremony, and ritual. And you will find those at our wedding. But you will only find those that have meaning for us, those that help us create the wedding that reflects Ed and Bridget, those that celebrate who we are and how we love each other.
That was NOT Bridget.
I didn’t even know it was ‘cummerbund’ until about a month ago; before that I thought it was ‘cumberbund’. (Oh dear.) I had no concept of myself as a Bride, and I certainly didn’t want to subscribe to the wedding industry’s idea (at $8 billion annually) of what a wedding should look like.
A friend who was married a few months before our engagement described herself as “the Anti-Bride”. I loved the tongue-in-cheek sound of that – I didn’t want to be the Princess Bride or Bridezilla or any bridal variation in between.
Turns out there is a book called Anti-Bride Guide, and Rae gave me her copy, inscribed with this note:
I received this book from a fellow “anti-bride” on the occasion of my engagement. I now pass this sacred guide to you, my beloved friend, in hopes that you will also find freedom from stuffy tradition and ridiculous ceremony. May your wedding be a unique and breathtakingly beautiful celebration of love.
There is absolutely a place for tradition, ceremony, and ritual. And you will find those at our wedding. But you will only find those that have meaning for us, those that help us create the wedding that reflects Ed and Bridget, those that celebrate who we are and how we love each other.
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